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Disappearing in Broad Daylight

Parklawn Hall | Housing - Division of Student Life | The University of Iowa

Whew!! Depression had hit me hard this day. I wasn’t doing great in my classes and I was just…tired. I had a weak moment where I hated my life because I was where I never wanted to be, and suddenly all of my trauma did a drive-by gang-bang on me. I was at a university I hadn’t heard of until my big bro and sis-in-law had me apply at the last minute. I felt caged, like a firefly in a sweaty palm, and I had no way of escape. I didn’t have my flute, and I couldn’t play away my pain. My Bro and sis-in-law showed up for me and took me to the ER after this incident and were there until I was taken to the loony bin. I loved them for that…


BACKSTORY: I grew up VERY sheltered, and my only outlet, besides writing…until it wasn’t, was band. My HS was predominantly black, and our band had a southern flair. We were the best around! Band was my life. I wasn’t popular. I was a quiet girl whose dad folks were afraid of. I played softball and a little basketball (wasn’t great), but band? Band was the Whitney to my Bobby, the Beyonce to Destiny’s Child…my H to my O. See what I did there? I’d even play my flute on the front porch when I was home from college for summer break. I even wrote an entire Jazz album (Art Porter‘s “Lay Your Hands On Me”) into sheet music. Anywho, back to HS. One year, we marched in the Circle City Classic parade in Indianapolis and marched by FAMU (Florida A&M University). Y’all, I fell in love! I knew that’s where I was going. My band director, Mr. Jones, gave me the audition piece to practice. I knew I couldn’t go to FL to audition, but I could mail in the tape. I practiced and practiced until I pretty much memorized it. Imagine the heartbreak I felt when my dad told me I couldn’t go to FAMU for college because “I didn’t know anyone there." He said no because I wouldn’t have support. Well, the joke was on me because he hasn’t supported me with a PENNY (literally) since I graduated. I hadn’t even applied to any northern schools. My heart was set on going south, but God always knows what’s best.


She didn’t plan to make a scene. To be the object of everyone’s confusion and amusement.

She just planned to make it stop.

It was Tuesday. Midterms and early mid-life crises attacked her like dirty laundry and her brain wouldn’t shut up. So she took the pills. Most of them. Maybe all of them.

A swallow, then a pause. But “what now?”

Then she called her best friend. Ashamed and terrified.

Because even when you want to die, you don’t really want to die alone.

That’s the kind of loneliness she couldn’t bear to stomach. She always felt alone, but the thought of being picked right on up out of life like one bad apple in a bunch was daunting.

Time seemed to stop as she laid there. Tears streaming. Non-stop.

Moments later, the police showed up.

Thirty minutes later, she was being hauled out on a stretch like an overdramatic extra in a Tubi movie.

She didn’t know who saw what. Who knew.

She didn’t ask, but she could feel the weight of all those dorm windows and faces watching.

The whispering.

The “Oh my God, did you see…?”

She wanted to scream.

The mental facility wasn’t a facility. It was a waiting room for people too tired to die, but to broken to heal.

She was “admitted” (insert: trapped) for seven days. No counselor. No talking.

Just everyone taking pills.

Pills in the morning. Pills at night.

Pills to stabilize her enough to sign the discharge papers.

She swallowed them because what else was she going to do?

Complain?

They just wrote her refusal in their clipboard of “patient still refusing and ungrateful, keep her another day.”

When she left, life didn’t roll out a red carpet of second chances.

There was no “welcome back” party, no epiphany. Turns out, attempting suicide is just like college group projects. Everyone watches, no one really helps.

She was still drowning. But now with slightly less energy, and still no will to live.

People thought she was better.

She let them.

It was easier to smile than explain that you’re still standing in the fire, just quieter now.

That night, back in her dorm, she sat on her bed and stared at the ceiling.

It was quiet.

Too quiet. Not even her raging thoughts were loud.

She whispered a prayer. Not because she believes, but because she had nothing else ot lose.

“God…if You’re there, just give me a reason not to do this again.”

She didn’t hear a voice.

She didn’t feel a miracle.

But she did wake the next day. And the next.

And maybe, for now, that counted as enough.

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